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  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Why You Can’t Make it Alone

    - by Welldoing

    In the second century AD, the Roman emperor, Marcus Aurelius, wrote to himself in his Meditations: it is your duty to stand straight – not held straight. Aurelius, a Stoic, believed self-reliance, acceptance of what cannot be changed and clarity of thought to be of utmost importance and crucial to a fulfilling life. Much of his writing and the writing of other Stoics served the basis for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy…

  • Coaching

    Can You be a Confident Introvert?

    - by Welldoing

    Many introverts are confident people and introversion is not about lack of confidence, but characterises those who are more stimulated by internal thought than by external action and interaction. Where an introverted personality type might not actively seek and enjoy large social interactions, this is a preference rather than an aversion. They just prefer the solace of solitude, at least at regular intervals, to recharge their batteries. To a more…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    The Powerful Benefits of Reading Fiction

    - by Welldoing

    When was the last time you read a book, or a substantial online article? Do your daily reading habits streetch no further than tweets, mundane Facebook updates, or the cooking instructions of ready meals? If you’re one of countless people who refuse to make a habit of reading regularly, you might be missing out: reading fiction has all sorts of advantages. For a start, several studies reveal that reading fiction…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Is Your Childhood Sabotaging Your Relationships?

    - by Welldoing

    Many surveys indicate that January features high on the list of break ups and couples heading for the divorce courts. So perhaps it is timely to consider the choices we make when we are looking for a partner. We seek out people to whom we can attach ourselves over our lifetime. But we need to let go emotionally of our primary caregivers before we can form new secure attachments. I…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    The Causes of Addiction: from a Counsellor and Recovering Addict

    - by Welldoing

    Most of my clients come to see me because of a crisis in their family or personal relationships. And as such I tend to see many struggling with addiction either themselves or how it affects their significant loved one(s). And whilst it is true that all addicts or alcoholics will have issues with personal relationships, it is not necessarily the case that family or relationship traumas (or any external factors…

  • Coaching

    Mindfulness Body Scan to Help With Anxiety

    - by Welldoing

    ‘The past is already gone. The future is not here. There is only one moment for you to live. That is the present time.’ – The Buddha When the Buddha spoke about being mindful of the feelings, he meant both bodily sensations, such as warmth, hunger or physical pain, and feelings such as happiness, sadness, boredom and so on. But unless we are being rocked by some big emotion, many…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Brain Food: Eating for a Healthy Mind-Gut Relationship

    - by Welldoing

    The thought that what we eat can influence the way our mind works is initially an alien one for many people. After all, the brain and its extension, the mind, are generally seen as uncharted territories, and we take for granted that they will work regardless of our actions. However, when I suggest to people that it’s easy to prove we can influence our brain quickly, and ask them to…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Why Do I Always Procrastinate?

    - by Welldoing

    We all have times in our lives when we have a task to do, yet find ourselves busily engaging in anything but that task. This is not always a negative thing. When compared to pre-crastination (compulsively completing tasks as soon as possible) procrastination can sometimes be a positive process, slowing us down and allowing more creative ideas to emerge and flow. Interestingly, procrastination tends to be endorsed in popular culture.…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    The Psychology of Donald Trump’s Election

    - by Welldoing

    Donald Trump has defeated Hillary Clinton to become President of the United States. Waking up to this news has left much of the world in shock. Our fears are for gender equality, the rights of minorities, the protection of the environment; in international relations, where his election might affect the UK, his ideas appear to be purely transactional, with no interest in values. How does a man who embodies many…

  • Counselling and Psychotherapy

    Upgrade to Better Human Connection

    - by Welldoing

    It’s one of the great ironies of our age that while more of us than ever before report feeling isolated and lonely, the volume of our communication increases exponentially on a daily basis. In reaching out to family, friends and colleagues, our default setting is to pick up a device and search for a WiFi signal. And yet all this digital discourse very often leaves us feeling bereft of genuine…